We’re Just Two Lost Souls Swimming in a Fish Bowl, Year After Year

two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl year after year

Pink Floyd’s Wish You Were Here. My all-time favorite song. I’m 25-years-old and I fell in love with it back in in the year 2009, which was the year I graduated from high school, although the meaning of that song, subjectively to my heart, didn’t inflict me with any deep emotions until 2011.

In essence, Wish You Were Here reminds me of my first love.

Yes, the song’s original meaning is alleged to be about former Pink Floyd member Syd Barrett’s mental health, but to me, it’s simpler. It reminds me of my first love, and how she was, well, who she was during the first year and a half of our relationship and how she changed.

“We’re just two lost souls swimming in a fish bowl” takes me back to when we were just high schoolers, knowing nothing about the world or the future, just living day by day with big plans and heavy hearts. We thought we’d be together forever. We had big ideas.

In the most teenage ways possible, we changed. Most emphatically, she did, as she was the younger part of our relationship. I was her first boyfriend in general. Things didn’t end so well, and it wasn’t a mutual split, but that relationship ended nonetheless, and here I am. I don’t think about her all the time, but I do think about her often. She was my first love, after all. Nobody forgets their first love.

Every time I hear, “Wish You Were Here” I think about her, because a part of me does wish that 2008-2009 version of her was still here with the 2008-2009 version of myself.

We haven’t spoken in over two years.

This Is Your Song

How to Stop Procrastinating and Be More Productive

You can write that sentence (“how to stop procrastinating and be more productive”) into Google and find a number of websites with listed ways to thwart procrastination.

We all do it sometimes. Just admit it.

Here’s my one very simple tip:

Every day, in the evening, write out power goals for the next day. It can be three to five things, but never more than five. It can be something as simple as brushing your teeth or as complex as learning more about gas laws for your chemistry class. Power goals are for you, as a way to accomplish something in your life every day. It helps stave off mild depression and following through with your goals adds a sense of accomplishment and happiness in your life. It will affect the reward center of your brain, too.

Don’t write down more than five power goals, because you could overwhelm yourself or cause yourself to get off track. So, in review, at least three power goals and five at the most. Don’t be a hero or an overachiever (unless you are a psychopath).

That has nothing to do with procrastination, but the following paragraph does.

When you wake up in the morning, after you’ve ingested some caffeine or whatever it is that you do, get your biggest goal of the day over with. Just start it. When you wake up, your day’s slate is clean. You haven’t yet had the chance to procrastinate unless you are one of those people who grabs their phone and leans back in bed. Get up and devote five minutes to what it is that you need to get done.

Just start it as soon as you wake up.

procrastinating

Once you start and devote a few minutes to doing what you need to get done, you’ll find it easier to maintain the motivation to do it and you’ll be less likely to procrastinate.

Try it. Just do it. Let me know your feedback, strangers of the internet.

Having Racial Pride is Stupid and Pointless

What is the point?

Being proud of ‘your history‘ is pretty weak.

Who CARES what your great, great, great grandpa did or didn’t do? It’s irrelevant. Where your ancestors came from means very little. What YOU do… now, that impresses others.

I don’t understand racial pride — or national pride, for that matter.

What sort of idiot is proud over an accident of birth?

Cain Velasquez is a quality mixed martial artist, but his “brown pride” tattoo is silly. If you don’t believe it to be silly, then let me ask you, would you think “white pride” is fine, too? I think both are silly. Why have pride in something you didn’t personally accomplish? It’s pointless.

Also, expecting respect because of your ancestry is as wrong and childish as making judgements about people because of the color of their skin, or the country their great grandpappy came from.

Stop.

Bodybuilding is Not a Real Sport

I like lifting weights. Whenever I’m stressed out or anxiously needing to expend energy, it’s a good way to abate those two things.

Bodybuilders work their asses off. Most guys spend twenty or more years just to arrive at their prime in their 30s. They commit their lives to it.

But it’s not a sport.

It’s a hobby. An activity.

Professional bodybuilding is more corrupt than just about anything out there. I’m not even referring to the rampant anabolic steroid prevalence. That means nothing. Everybody in the fitness world of bodybuilding are on steroids. A lot of those guys will pretend to be natural (“fake natty”) and push supplements on the side with the adage, “You can get as big as me if you take this!”.

I say it’s corrupt because it coincides with worthless supplements that do little to absolutely nothing for your body, yet they are ones that many consumers are shelling out a shithorde of money for. You don’t really need a preworkout — put on your big boy pants and drink a big mug of black coffee; at least caffeine has been shown in peer reviewed scientific journals/articles to have physiological benefits. Creatine is beneficial to some people, but there are nonresponders, too.

If you are into bodybuilding, then great, but don’t tell me it’s a sport.

If you are a roided up bodybuilder, obviously you’ve worked your ass off for years. That’s undoubtable. A random guy could take anabolic steroids, but without spending his time consuming enough calories with the right macronutrients, getting enough sleep and working out efficiently with proper form, then he’s wasting his time.

But the industry is a sham. The fitness industry is a joke. I believe in eating well and staying physically fit, but between ‘fake natties’ pushing worthless supplements and liars being rife throughout the community, it’s just a caricature of what it could have been. It’s a circus.

For the record, you might be wondering why I keep referring to it as a non-sport. It’s a hobby/activity. Not a sport. I define a sport as competition between two or more people that can directly impact each other’s performance as in to hinder or help. Thus, I don’t consider bodybuilding a sport in the same way I don’t consider golf a sport. Golf is a hobby/skill. In either sport, you cannot hinder or prevent your opponent from winning like you can in football, soccer, basketball, baseball, MMA, boxing, tennis, rugby, etc.

It’s a hobby.

It’s a hobby.

It’s a hobby.

It’s a fucking hobby engulfed in a multi-billion dollar industry with worthless supplements being pushed out.

Pieces of shit like Layne Norton, Marc Lobliner, Vince Del Monte and other wannabes have tarnished the whole damn shebang.

If you do bodybuilding competitions, fantastic. You’ve worked your ass off for years and deserve to win, but a bodybuilding competition is like a beauty pageant for men. It’s not a sport. It’s not a goddamn sport. It’s a hobby. An activity. We all have our own hobbies.

Jason Blaha gets on my fucking nerves with some of his videos on YouTube, but I do appreciate how he calls out the charlatans in the bodybuilding community.

All the supplements out there are virtually worthless, except:

1.) Whey protein
2.) Vitamin D3
3.) Vitamin K2 (unless you are consuming grass-fed butter or natto on a regular basis.)
4.) Omega-3 fish oil
5.) Chelated magnesium
6.) Vitamin C (natural antihistamine)

Unless you are deficient in a vitamin/mineral and for whatever reason can’t take it dietarily by way of a food source, most other vitamins/minerals are a waste of money.

Creatine? Some people react to it and experience muscle saturation and a workout boost, and some people are complete nonresponders.

But the health, fitness and supplement industry is a complete bullshit scam.

Don’t fall into the trap.

Stay up.

Death Wish Coffee is the Greatest Coffee I’ve Ever Had

Legitimately speaking, it is.

Death Wish Coffee is going to boom following this Sunday’s Super Bowl event, and it couldn’t happen to a better customer.

It’s a strong, rich, full-bodied dark roast coffee that is as strong in caffeine content as its test. I’m going to be a repeat customer going forward, and the reason why comes down to two things:

1.) The coffee is phenomenal.
2.) The customer service is even better.

There might be better coffee out there, but that alleged better coffee’s customer service likely isn’t in the same vein as Death Wish Coffee’s.

I’m going to support this company forever, ride or die. I will always stand up, clap for and support a company that is honest and takes care of its customers. Thank you, Death Wish Coffee.

Being Loyal and Faithful is Boring

It really is.

Being a loyal and faithful partner to your significant other is boring. There’s no chaos to it. On the forefront, there’s no drama. There’s no thrills. There’s nothing to it. It’s one of the most boring things you can do in your life.

Yet I’d rather be a ‘boring‘ loyal and faithful human being to my woman than bounce around from girl to girl any day of the week.

Honestly, being loyal and faithful is the most underrated thing you can do in this world. “Live life abundantly”. I love that mindset. I’d rather live life abundantly with the same woman for the next 50 years of my life than rely on cheap thrills with girls I have no chemistry with.

Living your life with a clear conscience is the easiest thing you can do in your life. Let me post what Andy Frisella, a guy I look up to, said:

Growing up we all learn a lot of things.

We learn what to do.

We learn what not to do.

We learn what will get you punched in the face.

And we learn what will get your ass thrown in jail.

We learn these things from many different influences: Friends, family, teachers, peers, tv etc.
When I sit back and think about THE ABSOLUTE MOST IMPORTANT LESSON I HAVE EVER LEARNED…its a no brainer:

DO THE RIGHT THING

In business, as in life, along your journey people will lie, people will cheat, people will steal, people will pretend to be a friend to learn from you only to use that same information against you, they will smile in your face with zero integrity and wish bad upon you in that exact moment.

This is FACT.

It’s not “if” its “when”.

…but in the long run…if you stay true to yourself, focus on your mission & DO THE RIGHT THING you will ALWAYS win!

ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS.

Do the right thing and everything will be OK.

If you do the right thing and live with a clear conscience, that opens your mind up for more room to store information. Instead of filling your brain with your own lies to cover your sorry, two-bit ass, you give way to new thinking, ideas, information and growth.

I read a blog recently about a young women who’s my age that is in a relationship with a married man who is ten years her senior. I am not going to judge her, but regardless of the semantics surrounding the situation it will not end well, long-term. A lot of young women fall into these traps with older married men, thinking the man will leave his wife for them. Maybe he will. Oftentimes the man does not, but maybe he will, and let’s say he does, but what about when she (the young woman in this scenario) grows older. The same man will step out on her, too. A leopard never changes his spots. People live through their habits. Nobody — you nor I — is an exception to our daily rituals and habits. It’s what defines us.

So, living life as a loyal and faithful partner is not boring. It’s really not. It’s underrated. It’s the most underrated fucking thing you can do in your life.

Check out the bestselling, ageless book The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. He touched on this topic in that excellent read in 1959.

If you disagree, that’s OK. Good luck.

I’m not talking about the myth of the great American dream of the white picket fence. This has nothing to do with that.

You might try to argue that humans are naturally polygamous individuals. Maybe. Or maybe not. I’d rather live monogamously.

I’ve lost a lot of people in my short, 25 year life. A ton. I miss them all. I appreciate people’s presence in my life. I’m an atheist, ergo I don’t believe in an afterlife. I love and cherish each and every single day I get with the people I love around me. You never know what might happen. My cousin, who I was extremely close with as a kid, died in December at the age of 21 from accidental carbon monoxide poisoning. He was getting ready to go to work and left his car running in the garage of his apartment complex, in which the garage door was shut. It was a simple but fatal accident.

Anything can happen. You never know what might happen.

So, enjoy your days, love who you love and do the best you can.

Enjoy the positives but don’t take the negatives of life too harshly, because every problem you encounter in life is usually temporary. As Lynyrd Skynyrd’s Simple Man goes, “This too shall pass”.

Living with a clear conscience is easy.

Advanced Math is an Unequivocal Waste of Energy to Learn

Unless you are going to be a teacher or involved in a field that will utilize higher levels of math (i.e engineering and whatever else applicable and relevant), learning advanced math is an utterly, unequivocal waste of time.

I’m turning 25-years-old this year and I just returned to college in 2014. Before 2015, I hadn’t taken a math class in about a decade. The teachers I had in high school were rather poor quality instructors.

I want to be a physical therapist. Outside of basic math involving addition, subtraction, division, multiplication, some algebra and a very, very basic knowledge of physics, why should learning any other form of math be necessary?

Please let me know. I’m waiting.

“It’s to increase your critical thinking ability?”

Uh… huh?

All math is, is the process of following instructions. It’s nothing more than being able to bend over the bed and take it. If you can remember how to follow instructions on how to complete a math problem, you’ve won.

Critical thinking my ass!

Wanna know something that is actually conducive to improving your critical thinking skills?

How about a debate and/or a creative writing class? That sounds lovely. You get to exercise your mind. Critical thinking is everywhere in those two facets.

It seems oh so pointless to me that I have to take a regular math class (by ‘regular’, I have no fucking idea at the moment, as I will subsequently find out in the fall, I suppose), pre-calculus and then calculus. What is the point of yours truly learning calculus? I will never use it in my entire life. Never, ever.

I could be taking anatomy classes, something that is actually conducive to the career path I’d like to go into.

But no.

For the time being, I’ll be wasting hours upon hours of my life learning a math I’ll forget within months of completing.

What a waste of time.